Talking about adoption
Adoption is a lifetime commitment to raise a child, who cannot be brought up within their birth family, as your own.
When you adopt, you become the legal parents of that child and assume the right to make decisions about their upbringing.
Once adopted, a child has no legal connection to their birth family, although many adoptions today involve some contact with birth family members (often in the form of an exchange of letters once or twice a year).
If you live locally, or even if you don’t, Slough Children’s Services Trust operates as a not-for-profit voluntary adoption agency. The Trust is responsible for finding new homes for children in a position to be legally adopted and for approving potential parents.
In the majority of cases, a child from Slough waiting for adoption will not be placed in the borough, but will be matched with adoptive parents in another part of the country. In the same vein, potential adopters living in or not far from Slough come to the Trust to be assessed and go through their training programme, so they can adopt children from outside Slough.
But what’s it like to go through the process? Adoptive parent Sutopa talks us through her journey.
Why did you choose to become an adopter?
Adopting is something I always wanted to do. My partner and I have a birth child and, having become confident as a parent, I wanted to consider giving a home to child who needed one. I wanted to help.
How did you find the process?
We shopped around. My partner rang about 15 agencies and we chose one that had a reputation for being fast. At points during the assessment, I found it hard to trawl through my past. I had a really tough time as a teenager and I thought it would count against me but it didn’t and they did approve us.
How is life now, with your children?
We found a lovely little boy who fits in perfectly with our family. He slotted in so easily and I can’t imagine being without him.
What advice would you give to someone considering adopting?
Do it! But…be quite proactive at pushing the process forwards. Once the social workers have withdrawn, you are the one who will raise this child to adulthood so be as sure as you can. Ask as many questions as possible about the child because you want to be sure you can parent them.
Find out more
Are you considering adoption? Look on the Trust’s website or call the team on 0800 0730 291.